I hate cliches advocating that
the best time is the here and now. One of the popular cliches,
supported by many self-help gurus, is ďlive in the moment.Ē
Yeah, Iím no Dr. Phil but I say, letís NOT live in the
moment ó for any reason.
To preach living in the moment is supposedly to preach an
appreciation for the present. Well, to this I say presents arenít always so
sweet. Come on, really, who wants to look under the Christmas tree expecting
the winterís latest fashions or hottest trends to simply find another one of
Grannyís signature polyester picks?
All Iím saying is, if we live in the present with no
thought of future possibilities, then we have nothing.
No hope, no dreams, no aspirations, no better days. All weíll have of life is
the thought of how crummy Christmas was.
Yet, while living for tomorrow, thereís hope that next
year will be the year Grandpa picks the presents, since he always gives money
Another interpretation of living in the moment that has
much appeal is living each day as if it were your last. Well, other than for
its religious context and usefulness for teaching morality and decency, I
completely disagree with this.†
Twelve years ago my older brother, Jason Reynolds,
committed suicide. Unfortunately he lived in the moment. Though I believe with
all my heart he saw it after death, Jason failed to see the worldly light at
the end of the tunnel.
He didnít have anyone to tell him that though the night
is long, the day is sure to follow. And though life certainly is tough living
sometimes, I try to weather the storm, always hopeful that there will be
brighter days. I have no choice.
Besides, if my mother, father, sister, brother or I had
the capacity to only live in the moment July
7, 1994, we would not have survived our loss.
When tragedy strikes, sorrow and grief
consume our lives. We become emotional prisoners to our recent pain,
living in the moment. Just of late, my best friend had to convince me to stop
ďliving in the momentĒ because I was missing out on life for dwelling in my
I understand you may think life is not always bad and
itís good to live in the moment sometimes. For instance, why not dwell in the
happiness of a good day or the aroma of your favorite flowers?
Well, itís simple. Whether weíre dwelling in the good or
the bad, life will pass you by. And quite frankly, you might miss out on
So, Iím thankful I had someone to shake some sense in me.
Itís like parts of a quote by journalist Jim Bishop: ďIt is difficult to live
in the present Ö and impossible to live in the past.Ē But it is never
ridiculous to keep the future in mind.
I conclude by addressing those of you who still choose to
only live for right now. To you I propose this medium: learn from yesterday,
live for today and hope for tomorrow.
April Reynolds is a senior journalism major from Jackson,
Miss., and serves as a news editor for the
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